Marriage Part 2 – The Law of Jealousies

The Law of Jealousies in Marriage


The purpose for the institution of marriage is being shown us [Part 1] and it demonstrates the relationship between Christ and His Head. When we are granted to understand the purpose for the marriage union, we are then being able to understand the necessity of strong, healthy families to have a strong, healthy nation increase within us, spiritually speaking first. There is always an outward application.

Zec 2:10 Sing and rejoice, O daughter of Zion: for, lo, I come, and I will dwell in the midst of thee, saith the LORD.

Zec 2:11 And many nations shall be joined to the LORD in that day, and shall be my people: and I will dwell in the midst of thee, and thou shalt know that the LORD of hosts hath sent me unto thee.

Joh 3:30  He must increase, but I must decrease.

The Father, from the beginning, has purposefully created a waster, to destroy our marriage with our Head.

Isa 54:16 Behold, I have created the smith that bloweth the coals in the fire, and that bringeth forth an instrument for his work; and I have created the waster to destroy.

Rom 7:14 for we have known that the law [Christ’s] is spiritual, and I am fleshly, sold by the sin;

The waster knows to tempt us to take matters into our own hands [our own reasonings, falling into our own lusts] and be unequally yoked [2 Co 6:14] with the nations within, our emotions getting the better of us [bound by the law].

Pro 18:7 A fool’s mouth is his destruction, and his lips are the snare of his soul.

1Co 7:39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.

We are to retain and strengthen our marriage, and we see it is the unbeliever who leaves a marriage. Think within and without. The believer always seeks to nourish and strengthen the marriage …… take heed to deal well with our souls, the Word of God within, takes heed to nourish and strengthen our marriage to Christ. Lies do not stand against the Truth.

Mal 2:16 For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore, take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

Rom 11:30 For as ye in times past have not believed God, yet have now obtained mercy through their unbelief:

Rom 11:31  Even so have these also now not believed, that through your mercy they also may obtain mercy.

Luk 10:18 And he said unto them, I beheld Satan as lightning fall from heaven.

With that said, let us today study the topic of jealousy in the context of marriage. Think physical and spiritual, there is only One Lawgiver, which is Christ.


Scriptures reveal that jealousy, like every emotion, is a good thing to have when it is “godly jealousy”, which does not allow the waster to defile our marriages.

1Jn 5:18 We know that whosoever is born of God sinneth not; but he that is begotten of God keepeth himself, and that wicked one toucheth him not.

2Co 11:2 For I am jealous over you with godly jealousy: for I have espoused you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ.

We are Christ’s, child bearer, Christ is jealous of us ….. cruel as the grave, lies and lovers will have to go.

Son 8:6 Set me as a seal upon thine heart, as a seal upon thine arm: for love is strong as death; jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire, which hath a most vehement flame.

Exo 34:14 For thou shalt worship no other god: for the LORD, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God:

Pro 6:34 For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.

This is the reason for Christ’s coming:

1Jn 3:8 He that committeth sin is of the devil; for the devil sinneth from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil.

If we have other lovers [idols of the heart], married to our father, the devil [lies & lovers], and our mother, that great harlot [disobedience], misery is coming.

Jer 4:30 And when thou art spoiled, what wilt thou do? Though thou clothest thyself with crimson, though thou deckest thee with ornaments of gold, though thou rentest thy face with painting, in vain shalt thou make thyself fair; thy lovers will despise thee, they will seek thy life.

2Ti 3:4 Traitors, heady, high minded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;

When we depart from Christ’s Words, misery is finding us. Having other lovers, being under the law of the gentiles, yoked with the nations inside of us, confusion and every foul deed follows.

2Co 7:1 Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.

We are each other’s helpers and need to take heed in the physical always. When we speak about physical marriages, we are to admonish each other as sisters, to be wives to our husbands even to unbelieving husbands. We obey Christ [Truth]rather than men [lies] but we certainly look at the physical aspects of our marriages as Christ instructs us to do. Is the inside of the cup clean, or do we only have a form of godliness? Our examples to our husbands go a long way.

Mat 15:18  but the things coming forth from the mouth from the heart do come forth, and these defile the man;

Mat 15:19  for out of the heart come forth evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, whoredoms, thefts, false witnessings, evil speakings:

Christ’s wife identifies with Him and wants to please and glorify Him alone! Christ’s wife is as jealous of Him as He is of her. Paul had a godly jealousy towards the Church, to present them without spot and wrinkle [2 Co 11:2].

1Ki 19:14 And he said, I have been very jealous for the LORD God of hosts: because the children of Israel have forsaken thy covenant, thrown down thine altars, and slain thy prophets with the sword; and I, even I only, am left; and they seek my life, to take it away.

With the understanding that jealousy has a positive application, and that godly jealousy strengthens a marriage, we see that the end goal of positive godly jealousy is to present us a chaste virgin. We now consider a jealous spirit. Unjustified [not judged] jealousy destroys a marriage. Where there is faith [a gift], there is unity. It is grace through faith that is saving us. We have to be judged and see if our works are remaining.

Eph 2:8  For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:

When we are given the trial of losing our first love, we see Christ’s instructions for how that trust [returning to Him] is to be restored. We look at the OT shadow which points to the spiritual reality of the matter. Think within first, here is how we are judged to see whether we are guilty or not.

Num 5:12 Speak unto the children of Israel, and say unto them, If any man’s wife go aside, and commit a trespass against him,

Num 5:13 And a man lie with her carnally, and it be hid from the eyes of her husband, and be kept close, and she be defiled, and there be no witness against her, neither she be taken with the manner;

The words “with the manner” are not in Hebrew. We are being told is that she was not “taken in adultery, in the very act”.

Joh 8:4 They say unto him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act.

There are no witnesses in this example, and when a woman is suspected by her husband of being adulterous, pointing to what is going on in our minds, not in the act; are there lies in our heavens, do we have other lovers, idols of the heart?

Num 5:14 And the spirit of jealousy come upon him, and he be jealous of his wife, and she be defiled: or if the spirit of jealousy come upon him, and he be jealous of his wife, and she be not defiled:

A jealous man is a dangerous man. Being defiled is being disobedient.

Pro 6:32  But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
Pro 6:33  A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.
Pro 6:34  For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.
Pro 6:35  He will not regard any ransom; neither will he rest content, though thou givest many gifts.

We all, are guilty of leaving our first love through the traditions of our fathers [old mindsets]. Christ provides a way to deal with this in a manner that keeps us clean [doctrine] and undefiled [obedience] and provides safety for a woman [Body, the Bride] who is being falsely accused by her jealous husband. Let us look at the OT example of how Christ cleanses us through the washing of water by the Word.

Eph 5:26  That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

Here is the law [shadow] of jealousies.

Num 5:29 This is the law of jealousies, when a wife goeth aside to another instead of her husband, and is defiled;

Num 5:15 Then shall the man bring his wife unto the priest, and he shall bring her offering for her, the tenth part of an ephah of barley meal; he shall pour no oil upon it, nor put frankincense thereon; for it is an offering of jealousy, an offering of memorial, bringing iniquity to remembrance.

Whether there is basis for the husband’s jealousy is to be determined. The oil which represents acceptance by the Spirit of God and His Christ and the frankincense which represents the joy of that acceptance are not to be a part of this offering, which instead brings iniquity to remembrance. This man and the priest are both types of Christ, but it is Christ as His Body, in an earthen vessel, and this woman being us, as His Bride, who is also of the dust that is in the floor of the tabernacle.

Num 5:16 And the priest shall bring her near, and set her before the LORD:

Num 5:17 And the priest shall take holy water in an earthen vessel; and of the dust that is in the floor of the tabernacle the priest shall take, and put it into the water:

Now we have dust in the holy water of the laver. Moses was commanded to sanctify the laver, and it was only the fact that the laver was sanctified that this water is holy water and is now capable of judging this accused woman in this OT witness.

Exo 40:11 And thou shalt anoint the laver and his foot, and sanctify it.

Here is this laver and holy water which judge us in NT terms:

Joh 7:38 He that believeth on me, as the scripture hath said, out of his belly shall flow rivers of living water.

These rivers of living water are the words of Christ [John 6:63] judging us all.

Joh 6:68 Then Simon Peter answered him, Lord, to whom shall we go? thou hast the words of eternal life.

Joh 12:48 He that rejecteth me, and receiveth not my words, hath one that judgeth him: the word that I have spoken, the same shall judge him in the last day.

This holy water which is capable of making such judgments is in an earthen vessel, made of dust, and that holy water is combined with the dust of the tabernacle which symbolizes the same thing as the earthen vessel itself. In Adam, we are all the dust of the ground. It was the dust of the earth that was given to the serpent for his nourishment [Gen 3:14], and yet the same dust, also called an earthen vessel is becoming the “flesh and… bones” of Christ [Eph 5:30].

Gen 2:7 And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.

1Sa 2:8 He raiseth up the poor out of the dust, and lifteth up the beggar from the dunghill, to set them among princes, and to make them inherit the throne of glory: for the pillars of the earth are the LORD’S, and he hath set the world upon them.

Christ is using earthen vessels to execute His judgments within His Bride. Christ’s own anointed and sanctified “holy water” into which is placed “dust from the floor of the tabernacle”, both being in “an earthen vessel” is supernaturally, through this law of jealousy, discerning the spirits within His Bride.

Num 5:18 And the priest shall set the woman before the LORD, and uncover the woman’s head, and put the offering of memorial in her hands, which is the jealousy offering: and the priest shall have in his hand the bitter water that causeth the curse:

Placing the offering in her hand symbolizes her willingness to be judged and to be purified by the holy water that is judging her. Uncovering her head is a symbol of shame, because it is a shame for a woman’s head to be uncovered [1 Co 11:5-6] It is the priest who executes the judgment of this woman [church].

Num 5:19 And the priest shall charge her by an oath, and say unto the woman, If no man have lain with thee, and if thou hast not gone aside to uncleanness with another instead of thy husband, be thou free from this bitter water that causeth the curse:

This water symbolizing the Word of God causes a curse to come upon us when we are serving our belly. It is bitter in [our] belly [Rev 10:9] because our belly is the symbol for the desires of the carnal-mind flesh which is enmity against God [Rom 8:6-7].

Rom 16:17 Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them.

Rom 16:18 For they that are such serve not our Lord Jesus Christ, but their own belly; and by good words and fair speeches deceive the hearts of the simple.

Php 3:18 (For many walk, of whom I have told you often, and now tell you even weeping, that they are the enemies of the cross of Christ:

Php 3:19 Whose end is destruction, whose God is their belly, and whose glory is in their shame, who mind earthly things.)

We receive Christ with joy and love the sweetness thereof in our spiritual youth when we first encounter Truth. But when we are made to face the trials that come with being faithful to those words, then the sweet words become bitter in our belly. We lose our first love. Christ tells us that we are dust and will return to dust because we are marred from the beginning, the serpent tells us the we are spirit like God and cannot die. Who are we believing?

Gen 3:4 And the serpent said unto the woman, Ye shall not surely die:

Physical death shadows spiritual death [disobedience]. What is said in hidden language is that only the faithful [Word of God] is remaining [always on going]. We have to become doers and not only hearers of Christ. If we obey our carnal thoughts [lies, lovers], which are our own lusts, when we know not to do that, that is lust, seed of the serpent, works of the flesh.

Eze 18:20 The soul that sinneth, it shall die. The son shall not bear the iniquity of the father, neither shall the father bear the iniquity of the son: the righteousness of the righteous shall be upon him, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon him.

Rom 6:16 Know ye not, that to whom ye yield yourselves servants to obey, his servants ye are to whom ye obey; whether of sin unto death, or of obedience unto righteousness?

We are being married to Christ, have the gift of faith, yet lies with another.

Num 5:20 But if thou hast gone aside to another instead of thy husband, and if thou be defiled, and some man have lain with thee beside thine husband:

Num 5:21 Then the priest shall charge the woman with an oath of cursing, and the priest shall say unto the woman, The LORD make thee a curse and an oath among thy people, when the LORD doth make thy thigh to rot, and thy belly to swell;

Jn 2:7 Brethren, I write no new commandment unto you, but an old commandment which ye had from the beginning. The old commandment is the word which ye have heard from the beginning.

This “swelling of the belly” has nothing to do with becoming fruitful and bringing forth children to God’s glory. This “swelled belly” is a deadly inflammation which results from having a thigh that is rotting and is robbing us of our ability to walk upright. We know this is so, because the conception of a child is what a woman who is justified by the bitter waters produces:

Num 5:22 And this water that causeth the curse shall go into thy bowels, to make thy belly to swell, and thy thigh to rot: And the woman shall say, Amen, amen.

Num 5:23 And the priest shall write these curses in a book, and he shall blot them out with the bitter water:

The bitter waters [Word] are fatal to our unfaithfulness, and at the same time the same waters “blot out… these curses”. Here is this same message in the NT

Joh 12:24 Verily, verily, I say unto you, Except a corn of wheat fall into the ground and die, it abideth alone: but if it die, it bringeth forth much fruit.

Joh 12:25 He that loveth his life shall lose it; and he that hateth his life in this world shall keep it unto life eternal.

1Co 3:15 If any man’s work shall be burned, he shall suffer loss: but he himself shall be saved; yet so as by fire.

If we are being judged, seed comes forth.

Mat 13:8 But other fell into good ground, and brought forth fruit, some an hundredfold, some sixtyfold, some thirtyfold.

It is the priest who causes the woman to drink the bitter waters of judgment.

Num 5:24 And he [the priest] shall cause the woman to drink the bitter water that causeth the curse: and the water that causeth the curse shall enter into her, and become bitter.

Num 5:25 Then the priest shall take the jealousy offering out of the woman’s hand, and shall wave the offering before the LORD, and offer it upon the altar:

It is also the priest who receives this offering from the woman and waves it before the Lord, and it is also the priest who burns the offering upon the altar and who “cause[s] the woman to drink the water”. We are each other’s lake of fire.

Num 5:26 And the priest shall take an handful of the offering, even the memorial thereof, and burn it upon the altar, and afterward shall cause the woman to drink the water.

Only after all these commandments have been “diligently” adhered to can a proper judgment be made whether this woman has been unfaithful. Only then will she, and we know the salvation that comes with this judgment being diligently executed upon her/us resulting in set apartness and obedience.

Num 5:27 And when he hath made her to drink the water, then it shall come to pass, that, if she be defiled, and have done trespass against her husband, that the water that causeth the curse shall enter into her, and become bitter, and her belly shall swell, and her thigh shall rot: and the woman shall be a curse among her people.

What is the outcome of this judgment? Either she has already been judged and purified and will not now be hurt of this judgment, or else she will now be judged for her sins. This is the purpose for all of God’s judgments. We are both women.

1Co 11:32 But when we are judged, we are chastened of the Lord, that we should not be condemned with the world.

All judgment is the chasten[ing] of the Lord. This is the effects of judgement:

Isa 26:9 With my soul have I desired thee in the night; yea, with my spirit within me will I seek thee early: for when thy judgments are in the earth, the inhabitants of the world will learn righteousness.

The woman who is already judged is conceiving seed.

Num 5:28 And if the woman be not defiled, but be clean; then she shall be free, and shall conceive seed.

We are all unrighteous, sinning machines made to being destroyed.

Rom 3:9 What then? are we better than they? No, in no wise: for we have before proved both Jews and Gentiles, that they are all under sin;

Rom 3:10 As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one:

Rom 3:23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;

The priest executes upon her all this law, and keep all of His statutes.

Num 5:29 This is the law of jealousies, when a wife goeth aside to another instead of her husband, and is defiled;

Num 5:30 Or when the spirit of jealousy cometh upon him, and he be jealous over his wife, and shall set the woman before the LORD, and the priest shall execute upon her all this law.

This entire law of jealousy is about Christ and His wife, because Scriptures testify of [Christ] and are all part of “the testimony of Jesus Christ”.

1Co 1:5 That in everything ye are enriched by him, in all utterance, and in all knowledge;

1Co 1:6  Even as the testimony of Christ was confirmed in you:

The Bride of Christ are kings and priests unto Christ who faithfully is executing this law.

Rev 1:6 and made us kings and priests to God and His Father, to Him be glory and dominion forever and ever. Amen.

When we do execute… all this law… the man… shall be guiltless from iniquity and this woman shall bear her iniquity.

Num 5:31 Then shall the man be guiltless from iniquity, and this woman shall bear her iniquity.

The woman who is not defiled in this law, is cleared through judgment, and she is now free and shall conceive seed [life].

Num 5:28 And if the woman be not defiled, but be clean; then she shall be free, and shall conceive seed.

Here are the witnesses in the NT when comparing spiritual with spiritual. In this example down below, the renewing mindset is a chaste virgin having been made set-apart, not travailing [she has been already judged], not married to the law, having many more children, being found faithful. The dream is one.

Gal 4:27 For it is written, Rejoice, thou barren that bear not; break forth and cry, thou that travailest not: for the desolate hath many more children than she which hath an husband.

Isa 54:1 Sing, O barren, thou that didst not bear; break forth into singing, and cry aloud, thou that didst not travail with child: for more are the children of the desolate than the children of the married wife [law], saith the LORD.


We see Christ increasing and we are decreasing, the faithful words of Christ [John 6:63] increasing [the women that conceive seed] and the seed of the serpent, our carnal thoughts, lies and lovers [enmity against Christ], decreasing which are demonstrated by these two women in the OT law of jealousies. In the NT witness: The one stays and the other is taken away.

Mat 24:41 Two women shall be grinding at the mill; the one shall be taken, and the other left.

The one woman who is judged and whose belly swells up, is taken away …. decreasing, hurt of the second death and the other women, who is judged and who remains [Christ], found faithful, conceives and is increasing.

So, the one is scattered [decrease] and the one is gathered [increase]. In this study, we looked primarily within. As noted before, there is always an outward application as well.

Mat 25:29 For unto every one that hath shall be given, and he shall have abundance: but from him that hath not shall be taken away even that which he hath.

Faithful is Christ and His Christ. Stay close to the written Word.

Rev 3:14 And unto the angel of the church of the Laodiceans write; These things saith the Amen, the faithful and true witness, the beginning of the creation of God;

Act 5:32 And we are his witnesses of these things; and so is also the Holy Ghost, whom God hath given to them that obey him.

So, positive godly jealousy gathers us within, presenting us as chaste virgins [life] and a jealous Spirit which the Lord claims He IS [I am a jealous God] scatters us [death of the old man], makes us decrease being refined in the furnace of affliction.

Isa 48:10 Behold, I have refined thee, but not with silver; I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction.

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